Intimacy
I've been listening to a lot of Ravi Zacharias since I went back to work in August. One of the lessons he taught on was intimacy. I am not eloquent, but I hope to be able to pass along the idea of what he was saying.
Ravi said that couples rush into intimacy too early in their relationship. It is necessary that if a relationship is to last and to prosper, that the couple get to know one another first. We must learn to communicate effectively with one another and to learn about the other person. If we ever really hope to be intimate with our spouse, we must be first be intimate in our conversation.
It's about sharing you dreams together, so that his dreams become her dreams and hers become his. It's about uniting together to protect one another from the likes and dislikes. It's knowing that she has fears and that he can offer protection for her. The trust forms when she knows that she can tell him anything and that he will not hold it against her, but instead protect and encourage her. She is brittle clay in tender hands, and while ultimately she is in the hand of God, God has entrusted her to his (boyfriend) hands for the moment.
Likewise, he is also brittle clay in tender hands. The media has made it clear that men have physical needs. Since the beginning of time, ladies have been deceptive. Be of the utmost purity in your thought. Do not entertain unwholesome thoughts and do not lure him into unholy talk. Edify and encourage him. Men want to know that they are secure and that they are loved. If he is the one, be sure that he knows that he is the one and that there is no other.
The biggest thing that helped me out when I was searching for Mr. Right: I was searching for Mr. Right. I asked God "is he the one", or "is this one the one", "what about that guy in the corner, is he the one?" When I finally laid these thoughts at the feet of God and I asked God to reveal who would be the one, He showed me. I expected that when my eyes would be opened that it would be someone I had already been considering. Nope. God showed me my youth leaders brother who was ten years older than me. I never pressed it with God, and I didn't press it with my youth leaders brother. I just accepted it and knew that God would work it out. I could continue on with how God worked it out, but this is quite lengthy already.
Just trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all of your ways (yes, all of them!) acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.
Ravi said that couples rush into intimacy too early in their relationship. It is necessary that if a relationship is to last and to prosper, that the couple get to know one another first. We must learn to communicate effectively with one another and to learn about the other person. If we ever really hope to be intimate with our spouse, we must be first be intimate in our conversation.
It's about sharing you dreams together, so that his dreams become her dreams and hers become his. It's about uniting together to protect one another from the likes and dislikes. It's knowing that she has fears and that he can offer protection for her. The trust forms when she knows that she can tell him anything and that he will not hold it against her, but instead protect and encourage her. She is brittle clay in tender hands, and while ultimately she is in the hand of God, God has entrusted her to his (boyfriend) hands for the moment.
Likewise, he is also brittle clay in tender hands. The media has made it clear that men have physical needs. Since the beginning of time, ladies have been deceptive. Be of the utmost purity in your thought. Do not entertain unwholesome thoughts and do not lure him into unholy talk. Edify and encourage him. Men want to know that they are secure and that they are loved. If he is the one, be sure that he knows that he is the one and that there is no other.
The biggest thing that helped me out when I was searching for Mr. Right: I was searching for Mr. Right. I asked God "is he the one", or "is this one the one", "what about that guy in the corner, is he the one?" When I finally laid these thoughts at the feet of God and I asked God to reveal who would be the one, He showed me. I expected that when my eyes would be opened that it would be someone I had already been considering. Nope. God showed me my youth leaders brother who was ten years older than me. I never pressed it with God, and I didn't press it with my youth leaders brother. I just accepted it and knew that God would work it out. I could continue on with how God worked it out, but this is quite lengthy already.
Just trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all of your ways (yes, all of them!) acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.
posted by Nichole at 6:34 AM
4 Comments:
Nicky, these are wise words.
Love ya, Brenda
nicky, so i must tell you one of my earliest memories of you. we were at a youth car-wash in greenfield and i was sitting next to you in the back of the van. you turned to me and said, "miriam, i have a big crush on jason! i know i'm going to marry him." you know what i was thinking, "wow, nicky is CRAZY! he's so old!" hahahaha, you were like 17 and that would make me...14 ish? i didn't believe you at first but then you started dating and now you're married with little sheppy!!! :) i'm glad you listened to the Lord and not the people around you!
Miriam,
That's so funny! I don't recall that taking place at all. I trusted God that He knew what He was doing even if I didn't understand. Thanks for telling me. It's really quite amazing how God worked it out that we met, became friends, fell in love and got married. I am blessed to say the least. And Shep's the best little boy.
I remember being 13 years old and having the biggest crush on Chris. I knew at that point that he would be the guy I marry. Unfortunately, I had to sit back and watch him make his way through a couple of other girlfriends before he even noticed me! Oh, and Shep is ONE of the best boys!
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